For those who have had a baby know what it’s like to try and even leave the house fully clothed let alone get out for a date night with your significant other. Some days it’s just not going to happen.
Hubby and I made the decision at Christmas last year that we wouldn’t buy each other presents and instead make more of an effort in spending time with one another. Since we had the little ones life seems to revolve around them, which is fine, however we never seemed to have time out just the two of us.
Not to mention the fact that Hubby can’t even kiss or cuddle me without being pushed away and told to basically “leave Mummy alone!” Poor Hubby!
So we spoke to our amazing family friend and booked her for ‘date nights’ every 4-6 weeks. When booking with her we will lock in dates for the next 4 months, that way they’re in and we look forward to them. Let me tell you the first one was weird! We saw a truck on our way to dinner and said “Look it’s a truck” and cracked up as our little ones weren't in the car. How life changes when you have kids.
Our first date night was pretty funny. We booked dinner at a local Yum Cha place and aimed to be at the movies by 8.30pm. Hubby and I were sending texts to each other all day psyching each other up, it was like back in our dating days. We felt like 20 something year olds.
We thought we’d have enough time to get to the movies and purchase our tickets at the booking office and more importantly that we’d have plenty of time to grab like a large popcorn and coke that I’d been craving it all day. What we did! For Plan B? We didn’t have one. So, we thought let’s go bowling, we had a blast.
It didn’t end there. After we’d finished bowling and thought, let’s stop for a coffee and cake on the way home. We went to our usual haunt, mind you this is going back almost 2 years and it’s only 10pm and they’re all closing for the night, seriously? Just our luck, first night out on our own and this happens. We haven’t been out of the game that long peeps.
Plan C? Stop off at Coles for a cake and coffee at home. We had a good laugh and it turned out to be a great night.
Remember these tips:
Book date nights in a few months in advance with the babysitter, friend whoever you trust and can get.
Compromise on what it is you want to do, take turns in choosing the movie you want to watch or better off surprise your partner with something you know they love doing.
Lock in dates on a calendar so you have something to look forward to.
Decide on what you want guys want to do. Book it (and if you decide on the movies…..pre-book your tickets)
Get excited, text each other; What are you wearing tonight sweet cheeks? Can’t wait to share a large popcorn with you.
And remember, who cares if it doesn’t go to plan, make the most of it and make your own fun.
I must say holding hands was a massive highlight, given that we’re forbidden by our Children to have any form of affection toward each other in their presence!
Why not recreate your first date, It’ll be loads of fun and bring back many fun and happy memories that you can reminisce about.
And, don’t forget to hold hands.
Tell us what your first date night was like after baby?